Saturday, July 15, 2006
How can you tell if you love someone?
[Get ready this is sentimental]
If you're willing to say that that person is the one whom you are going to marry. If you've seen all their weaknesses and their strength and you still want to grow old with them. When your main aim in getting in this relationship is marriage.
For you commitment phobes and marriage?!-what-the?!-aren't-you-going-a-little-too-fast-I-mean-marriage?!-I-want-to-have-fun-first!-Can't-we-just-have-fun?!-I'm-breaking-into-a-cold-sweat-just-hearing-the-word-marriage-people out there. Please forgive me for using those terms that probably scare the crap out of you.
But believe me... If you really love the person, then marriage should be your aim at the end of this relationship. Which is in a way, the beginning.
And please, don't bother saying stupid questions such as "But what about experience?" "What about the other fish in the sea?" "Playing the field?" Cause if you really love someone, would go out and look for anyone else?
See, many people depend way too much on their emotions to tell if they love someone. Which is very wrong. Emotions aren't bad, so yeah, there is a point why they are there. But please, don't depend on your emotions?
Cause yeah, they will run dry eventually.
Then what are you going to do? Break up? Get divorced? Look for someone else and start all over again only to have it run dry?
It's a tiring process.
It always happens. Love based on feelings only last in books. Great read, I'll give you that, but nonetheless, it's still fiction. Very fake.
Love should never be just what you feel. It should be about what you commit to.
Love is ultimately, about commitment.
Lotsa love, Jana